This is a TEDTalk which resonated with me this past week and especially today. Since I've quit my job at Accenture in mid-Sep 2018 (its been 1.5 months now), I know the logical thing to do is to apply for new jobs. The logical way to get new jobs is to talk to as many people as possible about their experience and hopefully network my way into a job-related revelation.
Yet, I've been paralyzed, physically and mentally unable to talk to strangers and even some of my own friends about job opportunities or anything remotely career-related. I feel frozen at the prospect of calling up someone I know, just to talk "me". I hate that. I hate feeling like I'm using people. I hate feeling like I'm weak and that I can't even figure my own life out. I haven't even asked my mom, earnestly about what she can do to help. I feel like asking is "wrong" or its "dirty". Asking makes you vulnerable.
This TEDTalk really changed my perspective. When you're asking someone, you're handing them an opportunity for them to feel good about themselves because they're able to help you. You're handing them an opportunity to connect with you. I do believe that that is true. I feel so great when I'm able to help someone out. I really do.
Its not just this TedTalk that has been calling out to me. Somehow I keep hearing this advice repeated from various sources in my life. From Tan, the Lean In event, from Pete, from TEDTalk. Or perhaps its an advice I know I need but am not quite willing to take myself (just yet).
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